Happy November! It’s currently 80 degrees here, but TECHNICALLY it’s fall, so I’ll take it! I am disturbed by the onslaught of Christmas commercials and emails that I’ve started getting. I love Christmas as much as anybody, but has everybody forgotten about Thanksgiving? It’s this little holiday that happens a whole month before Christmas. #bringbackthanksgiving #imnotready
Halloween was a bit of a bust for us this year.
Not a complete wash, but it feels that way. Because H is doing so well, I figured this year would be a breeze. We’ve prepped him for weeks: talking it up, explaining everything, practicing trick or treating around the house, etc. He seemed to understand and be excited about it. We also made plans to trick or treat with our neighbors. I thought that he would like going with his friends would follow along with them. I was sure that this Halloween would be one for the books. Not so much.
I took him to his school festival and he didn’t do too badly, but it wasn’t the smashing success I hoped for. Hayden usually does better with those types of things if Chris comes too, but I messed up the schedule and he had to work. He did GREAT with all the noise though, which is a WIN! There was a game that involved knocking over some metal coffee cans. He would have gone through the roof last year, and he didn’t want to be anywhere near it but he didn’t cry and that’s huge for him!
The Main Event
I was positive that Halloween was a sure thing. He loves walking around the block, but had NO interest in going up to any houses. We probably hit 5 or 6 before he was done, and most of those took some heavy persuading. I should be glad he’s not super stoked about going up to strange houses, but c’mon man. And just like the Halloween festival, he didn’t do badly, it just wasn’t what I hoped. I wrote a post on tailoring expectations that, apparently, I should re-read (you can check it out here). He was tired from not napping and he’s not a big candy eater so he just wasn’t feeling it. The whole night was kind of a bummer and didn’t seem worth all the effort, which isn’t his fault at all! I set my expectations too high and I own that.
A kid not enjoying Halloween is not the end of the world. It’s hard, however, to see your kid struggling with something that comes so easily for everybody else. Hayden is our only child and it’s difficult to not feel like you’re missing out on times that are supposed be fun. When you decide to have kids, you picture activities like trick-or-treating as really exciting for them. Social media is full of kids happy as can be in their costumes with tons of candy. So far, that’s not our reality and it’s hard giving up that mental picture.
He keeps surprising us and I know that, but Halloween was tough evening for me nevertheless. I feel much better now, but wanted to share our experience in case y’all are going through the same thing. I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences so comment below.